The inevitable draws nigh

My mother-in-law called. DiL is not doing well, had to return to the ICU again and is very weak. The doctors wanted to put him back on a ventilator, but MiL and DiL were adamant that that wasn’t going to happen. He’s said “enough,” he’s done. After talking it over with DiL, they’re having the hospital people remove all support machinery and equipment except oxygen and pain meds. They don’t expect him to last more than 24-48 hours.

It seems that I won’t get a chance to say goodbye to him after all. I wish he could have gone home; I wish we could have taken him home in July when we were there. Now, they don’t think he’d survive the move.

It’s awful and sad. He so wants to be able to die at home in his own bed. It’s such a small thing, and it makes me heartsick that he can’t have that.

We’re readying ourselves to head up north.

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17 Responses to The inevitable draws nigh

  1. m0nkeygrl says:

    So sorry. I’ll be thinking about you and your family.

  2. lizziebelle says:

    Oh Eugie, I’m so sorry. That’s so hard to go through. Sending you strength & comfort vibes!

  3. yukinooruoni says:

    *hugs* :( Much love and support and everything else :(

  4. sartorias says:

    *hugs* to you all. I’m so sorry.

  5. ex_dotificu says:

    I’m so sorry, Eugie. My dad has suffered a series of health disasters the past two years so I know the awful stress you and your family are bearing. It’s agonizing.

  6. terracinque says:

    Why don’t you head on up there now? Maybe you could get there in time.

  7. j_cheney says:

    I’m also getting to the age where this is a frequent worry. My mother has been in and out of the hospital for the last two weeks, and we recently had to rush DiL to the emergency room. My thoughts and prayers will be with you…

  8. yansmom says:

    Oh, Eugie…that’s just awful. I am so sorry…

    I’ll be keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers…*hugs*

  9. jimhines says:

    So sorry to hear this, Eugie…

  10. I’m so sorry to hear that, Eugie. Hugs to you and yours.

  11. pabba says:

    My thoughts are with you and your family. So sorry…

  12. lotus_faerie says:

    You don’t know me, but you have my heartfelt sympathy. I can’t even imagine and don’t want to know what that must be like.

  13. coronalrain says:

    I’m sorry to hear that dear. May you and your family find the support and strength you need during this difficult time

  14. I’m so sorry Eugie. My thoughts are with you and Matthew.

  15. ellyssian says:

    My thoughts are with you and your family.

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